Seasonal or Lifetime Relationships… Imagine…

by Margrett Dawson Wallace
(Pelham, Georgia USA)

Seasonal or Lifetime Relationships… Imagine… Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because it has become your turn to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real, but only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach lifetime lessons that
you can build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. I have learned people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.

Once upon a time, I realized I was worth loving! And with that simple discovery, came change, lots of it. With time and support, I've become the author of me! Happily ever after comes from me and my choices.

My Inner Thoughts…Seasonal or Lifetime Relationships… Imagine: Nothing wastes more energy than worrying, the longer a problem is carried, the heavier it gets.

I am not taking things too seriously…I choose to live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets.
I am remembering a little love goes a long way and a lot goes forever. I try to always remember friendship is a wise investment. Life's treasures are people working, sharing... together; having health, hope and happiness, taking the time to wish on a star.

McKnight Achievers motto, and I quote…“It isn’t bad to not ever reach your star; but it is bad never to have a star to reach for”…unquote.
Someday everything will make perfect sense. So, for now; when someone accuses me of HATING another woman or any person, I just laugh at the confused misunderstanding of my sharing through my writing…for I am smiling through my tears and keep reminding myself that everything happens for a reason.

I don't ever forget for even a day ... how very loving Jehovah is for placing all of you in my path.

I want you to imagine something for a moment...Imagine a relationship with a man that's so secure that you never have to worry about saying something that he'll take the wrong way and pull away - just because you told him exactly how you feel.

Imagine not needing to dissect everything about your relationship. Imagine not needing to ask your friends to decode what he's saying because the level of communication between you and your friend is so honest and free flowing, that there's no need to go outside the relationship for validation.

Imagine how confident and calm and loving you'd feel if you had this? I am in a relationship now that I am having to put myself back in school where I am having to used what I learned in Psychology 102; with knowing exactly how to communicate with a man so that:

A) He understands me, and he can hear me and my needs and never assume my thoughts and/or my emotional feelings.

B) He feels understood by me, so that I can speak with him in a language he will truly "get" - to the point where he can't imagine accepting s**t from any other woman in our relationship, he seems not to understand that he is pitting…women. I have to remember what I learned in this class to know exactly how to do this in a simple easy way that doesn't allow me to blame myself for everything or try and play games to try to get him to understand the BIG PART that he is playing. I have to forgive him/them to stay in the relationship.

May I continue to share with the readers of this blog to reach out and inform others that may be in the same or similar relationship?...
I would like in this relationship to imagine…these amazing moments being a part of my/our relationship...

I would like to feel that my/our relationship has a rock-solid and incredibly stable FOUNDATION to it because there is nothing me and the man in my life can not say to each other and still be loving and truly listen to each other without a third party saying sh*t.

I would like in this relationship to imagine…that there is an underlying TRUST that I feel with the man in my life. This trust will make me more confident, more carefree and more fun to be around than I can ever remember before…

I would like in this relationship to imagine…that I don't ever have to think about how to say what I REALLY FEEL ever again, or worry if it will derail the relationship somehow by saying it…
I would like in this relationship to imagine…that the man in my life is aware that when he pulls away, it's hard on me - and instead he opens up about what's going on for him, while still considering how it will makes me feel and its impact on the relationship…

I would like in this relationship to imagine…that I never have to feel that completely "disconnected" feeling again that makes me feel alone and in the dark...but instead allows me to always feel that strong connection with the man in my life on a deep physical and emotional level…
I would like in this relationship to imagine…that finally I don't have to wonder where our relationship is going or how he is feeling because I KNOW since he checks in with me on a regular basis and shares his love and affection with me in our not with another…relationship.
We are only as free as we ever make our hearts, minds, souls, & bodies up to be. No one can take away the freedoms which reign within our essence. Peace is always ours, no matter what is going on around us; or within you/me. I am the Nubian Queen and he is the King of our thoughts, always.

Thanks for allowing me to share my most inner voice thoughts…never to live this life again…